Comments for 6 Stone Jars

Comment on boyfriends and other women by Katie

Katie — Fri, 12 Apr 2013 02:59:04 +0000

This is all really good. thanks for sharing

Comment on boyfriends and other women by Eugene

Eugene — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 01:12:02 +0000

Thing is, you can’t stop your girl or boy friend from interacting with the opposite sex. It will happen, since we live in a society where both genders are free to participate in society as they see fit.

Bottom line is that the best thing you can do to prevent your partner from feeling pulled away is to make sure you are meeting all their needs, especially emotional. Jealous behavior can often be a self fulfilling prophecy. When you act that way, you partner probably isn’t going to feel comfortable or relaxed in the relationship. Even worse you’ve just demonstrated a LOT of weakness and a lack of self confidence. Both of those aspects are extremely unattractive in a prospective spouse and it can easily kill whatever romantic feelings may exist (I say this based on how it felt when I was dating someone who started stalking me online).

Comment on boyfriends and other women by Dennis

Dennis — Sat, 30 Mar 2013 14:51:58 +0000

About your boyfriend working in an office dominated by women (he might be in insurance or real estate), he is really just there to do a job. I’m sure your boyfriend keeps boundaries, and doesn’t socialize with them outside of work. I’m sure some of the ladies there are married or taken already.

Many men choose not to date women they meet at work (particularly at their own office) in order to avoid issues like gossip, and then there can be a problem if you break up with a co-worker. My place of business even has a discretionary clause about dating in the workplace, and prefers to discourage it. Your boyfriend is dating you, not one of his co-workers.

By the way, I know several men who will not go to lunch alone with a female co-worker. That’s also part of setting boundaries. Now, a group lunch every couple of weeks, (say for someone’s birthday or for a business seminar where there are three or more people) that is an exception.

Hope this helps. I am a man and I while I don’t have that many women in my current place of work, I very rarely will have lunch alone with a female co-worker.

Comment on boyfriends and other women by Henny

Henny — Thu, 28 Mar 2013 21:07:45 +0000

I really appreciate to read this article, especially today is Good Friday! I like a guy, we are good friends and he doesn’t know of my feeling to him. Lately, he grows close to a lady which stirs jealousy on me. I know I shouldn’t but humanly I did. I kinda stalked an online profile of the lady, out of jealousy, which I know it ain’t right. Thanks for reminding me with this article! I won’t do it again and will see where my relationship will develop to.

Comment on Get Over It! by rowena montayre sia

rowena montayre sia — Thu, 21 Feb 2013 02:20:12 +0000

Anthony, this is so full of wisdom. Thanks!

Comment on Get Over It! by siobhan Mcguire

siobhan Mcguire — Wed, 20 Feb 2013 23:00:20 +0000

Sometimes you meet someone wonderful, and “get over it” by remembering the best of times…some people you never get over~

Comment on Get Over It! by now a happy housewife with little kids

now a happy housewife with little kids — Wed, 20 Feb 2013 19:11:40 +0000

Thank GOD I had a kindly friend Susan who helped me “get over it” when Mister Wonderful (whom I met on AMS) dumped me. Susan helped me heal and I was ready for the real Mister Wonderful (also on AMS) when he started writing me. Susan was willing to listen to me yammer about the dumper for months afterwards and was never judgmental, even though for some mysterious reason she didn’t like the dumper when we were dating.. Never did she once say, “I told you so! I told you so!”

If you know someone who needs to talk then get a beer, get comfortable, and prepare to listen. The spiritual work of mercy known as “comforting the afflicted” will be difficult and tedious, but you never know how God will use you as His instrument of healing. Praise God and his servant Susan.

Comment on Dating like a grown up. by Spiderman

Spiderman — Sun, 17 Feb 2013 19:45:06 +0000

Anthony,
Along a different line, what happens when I and the person I’ve been emailing get along fantastically when emailing back and forth, but when we talked on the phone, it just doesn’t seem to click? I want to continue to pursue this person and not give up after one lackluster phone conversation; do you think this is a good option? How can you really know that you just won’t click?

Comment on Dating like a grown up. by Marie

Marie — Sun, 17 Feb 2013 18:18:35 +0000

There’s some good insight here, especially about being willing to engage a non-practicing Catholic in dialogue that might bring them back to the Faith. The author though might want to do a little more research on the Baltimore catechism before claiming that it only educates to a “third grade level” of faith. That would certainly be true if someone were to stop using it after third grade! The series itself though continues up through senior year of high school for those who care to use it in its entirety.
The author might be impressed by paging through Book 3 (written for high school sophomores juniors and seniors), and noticing that, besides advanced doctrinal question-and-answers that delve into theology that is well beyond third (or fourth or sixth or eighth) grade level, there are also “case study” type exercises provided. These are meant to assist almost-adult learners in applying the faith to real life scenarios – such as the one addressed here in this article: what you should you do when someone identifies themselves to you as a non-practicing Catholic.
Common sense of course says you would try to find out why they’re not practicing and as winsomely and persuasively as you can, invite them back. And the catechism’s suggested solutions to various such “case studies” are very much in line with common sense.

Comment on Dating like a grown up. by Deborah

Deborah — Tue, 12 Feb 2013 21:32:24 +0000

There are married people who only think about his family and despise the other.
There are married people who think of his family and some in the other, but this is rare.
There are single people very selfish, but beouse who are alone and no one to defend them.
And there are generous singles.

The generosity does not depend on being married or single.

Marriage has nothing to do with generosity.